I’m deviating away from my recollections of my early days in karate to discuss a question raised by a serious young instructor who asked how I decide who to select for membership in my dojo.
Imagine you were a doctor and traveled to a primitive land, where you discovered that thousands of children were dying daily from a deadly disease which you could cure with a shot of the antibiotics you carried in your medical bag. But most of those who had the disease didn’t realize they were sick – although you could read the subtle early symptoms clearly. And those who knew they were sick didn’t trust Western medicine, thinking only a witch doctor, herbal medicines, or blood offering to a deity could cure them.
If you knew thousands and thousands of children would surely die early deaths unless you could find a way to get them to agree to the shot, would you have a duty to find a way to get them to take it? Or would it be enough to simply tell yourself they didn’t want it so what more could you do? (Or, worse yet, feel that since they were so ignorant, they deserved what they got.)
I believe we’re in a very similar land. Tens of thousands, perhaps hundreds of thousands, die each year from illnesses that could be cured with something you alone within your local community have the ability to give them.
How many do you imagine die each year from heart disease, lung and colon cancer, cirrhosis of the liver, high blood pressure, obesity, high cholesterol, stroke, diabetes, and other diseases? The last statistics show that almost 2.5 million die each year. And a significant percentage of them die from preventable causes.
These latter die from illnesses that arise due to a lack of the self discipline and self control necessary to make the right choices in life.
People who fail to follow healthy lifestyles don’t do so because they don’t know what’s best for them. How many today don’t know that smoking is unhealthy… yet continue to smoke? How many today aren’t aware that they need to regulate the quantity and types of food they eat… yet continue to eat in an unhealthy manner? How many today don’t know they should get regular exercise… yet don’t get off their couches? How many today don’t know drugs or excess alcohol consumption will surely lead to early deaths… yet never slow down?
Everyone knows all of this, yet do it anyway.
People don’t fail to make healthy choices in their lives because they’re stupid. They merely lack the self discipline and self control necessary to make the right choices in life.
In the old days, most children gained self discipline and self control in three places - home, school, and church. But no more. In fact, laws have been enacted in this country to prevent parents from disciplining their children as they think most effective and schools from disciplining children or even teaching moral or ethical values. And church attendance in many parts of this country has unfortunately dropped significantly over the last 50 years.
The only places remaining within most American communities today are us.
As such, I believe we have a duty to reach out to as many people as possible within our local communities, a crusade of sorts, and do whatever is necessary to get them to “take the shot”, to get involved in your school. Then, you must work equally hard to keep them there long enough to instill in them critically needed self discipline and self control.
This is not in any way to downplay the value of instruction in self defense skills. In fact, we must make our young students proficient in defending themselves. Without that ability, they are still vulnerable to potentially destructive peer pressure. But when a teenager is able to defend him or herself, they don’t need the security of the group. They possess the self confidence necessary to not only achieve greatness in many areas of life but to also say and live “NO”.
Realistically self confident kids (those with real skill) don’t need to pacify their peers, to do what their peers want them to do in order to fit in or gain the approval or security of the group, who may lead them to drink, smoke, use drugs, join gangs, etc. Their peer group should need to gain their approval, not vice versa. My teenage students have become the leaders within their peer groups, not one of the compliant followers. And, since they possess the inner strength (from their self defense skill and their self discipline and self control) to make the right choices in life, they become positive role models for their peers to follow.
What would your local community look like, how would it change for the better, if a large percentage of your local residents were involved in your school? What would happen to teen drug and alcohol problems? Gangs? Childhood obesity? And so on?
It would change significantly for the better!
They’d run the drug dealers and gangs out of town.
You have within your hands a life-saving gift. Do you keep it to yourself and only share it with a handful? Or do you seek out and share it with everyone within your community who could use it?
I think you should do the latter.
Thanks for reading the ramblings of an old karateka.
Accurate and inspiring....
ReplyDeleteUber kudos! I only wish I had started karate at an earlier age. However, there where certain life lessons that where invaluable, even if hard earned, that help make me the karateka I am today.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE CKA because of it is exactly what you described above. =) I know that as long as I live, I will do my best to pass the same values myself.
Ous!
Hanshi,
ReplyDeleteYou told me this maybe 20 years ago and I have shared it with others. Your words continue to change peopels lives around the world.
Terry Bryan
Hanshi, I am looking at this blog and I reread it a couple of times. I love your attitude, but I just want to confirm what I see and actually what I believe. Every traditional karate-ka has that ethical responsibility to give back. There are benefits in training and your own peace of mind. I get frustrated when bullies are allowed to train. Maybe not so much bullies, but selfish individuals who teach for their own ego and you can see it. I don't understand why others do not see it. My original training I spent a lot of time helping juniors and I volunteer myself when I can in two dojos and some private training. It saddens me to see those that don't take this attitude. Imagine if Master Funakoshi just stayed in Okinawa.
ReplyDeleteI am glad you have a great influence to drown out some of the noise in the air. When it is reduced to just fighting, I feel something is missing.
MIchael Longfellow aka Old Wolf :)
Thanks, John and Hanshi Bryan. I'm like that old woman who says "I have Alzheimers but at least I don't have Alzheimers." I keep repeating myself - partially because new people keep coming on the scene but probably more so because I forget I've said it before. ;-)
ReplyDeleteSensei Longfellow, Thanks as always for your input and insights. Another of my old sayings: If you take someone with a huge ego and a small IQ (or just who make the mistake of believing their own hype) and give them the power of a 300 lbs gorilla, you have the makings for a real jerk, or bully. Like you, I've met more than a few who failed to learn anything from Sensei Funakoshi but how to kick and punch. If my students did that to me after I'm gone, I'd feel I'd been badly dishonored. Students are a great gift, not the other way around.
Thanks, Shihan Pascetta, means a lot coming from you. I've visited your blog and found a lot of great info there. Hopefully, I can get mine up to that level at some point.
ReplyDeleteosu brother jim - brilliant! i would like to share my own story with you and the followers; beginning of 2003 i almost died at the age of 39 and was rushed to hospital with serious angina attacks. i had almost suffered a severe stroke but fortunately did not have one. i was operated on immediately as my angiography showed all of my cronary arteries were badly damaged and had to be replaced. thus i underwent a quaddriple heart bypass. later, it was a result of un - controlled steroid abuse and pathetic diet when i was young and a bodybuilder. the fact that i have been doing karate do for 32 years according to heart surgeons saved my life and of course the man above. the point is because of my training the martial arts, i survived near death. yeah, so i am living proof and today have an 8th degree black belt having formed my own international system. god bless and take care. regards, henri eksteen
ReplyDeleteHanshi, thanks for sharing your story. The things we do when we're young and don't yet appreciate the fragility and preciousness of life. Very glad you survived it. If you hadn't, many people's lives would have been drastically dimenished and I would have been without a friend. Take care as well, Jim
ReplyDeletecongratulations on your book and very heart warming your message. however proverbs written by the wisest man ever. says about the csil - it means fool or senseless one someone who denies gods existance. if you beat the csil with a rod 100 times he will not learn wisdom. and many other verses with the same idea. that the wise one will always learn and enjoy learning and the csil will always reject wisdom, knowledge. it is not about self control. the csil is at war with god and godly wisdom. people make the choices they do because they want to. sometimes because they are broken and battered and want to escape into the beer bottle or drugs. but they make the choice. yes you can certainly help some people to leave destructive life styles, absolutely you can influence others to take up sport. but know that many will not listen ever. as we dont know who will listen or not we try with everyone. and god blesses our efforts. be positive but do not expect huge rewards of your efforts. the cigarette companies print on their boxes CIGARETTES CAUSE DEATH.and in asia more and more are smoking. the motto of the cig co is "get them young, get them black, get them stupid" go after the young, the inexperienced and black,asians, who are poorer and less educated. everyone knows cig causes death by the millions and people continue to smoke regardless. what does that tell you?
ReplyDeleteremember according to judiasm he that saves one soul saves the world, so go and save and encourage otheres but have realistic hopes. remember the reward of a mitzvah is .....to do another mitzvah.shalom from jerusalem.
Thank you, Ruth, for your comments.
ReplyDeleteOsu Sensei,
ReplyDeleteYou said "As such, I believe we have a duty to reach out to as many people as possible within our local communities, a crusade of sorts, and do whatever is necessary to get them to “take the shot”, to get involved in your school. Then, you must work equally hard to keep them there long enough to instill in them critically needed self discipline and self control."
It must be a very difficult path to follow. On one hand you have to challenge your students and push them so that they have to reach within themselves to gain self-control, and discipline, but on the other hand, if you are too tough on them they will want to quit and go back to what is comfortable for them. How do you keep them coming, and inspire them to push past their boundaries?
Osu